A 30-year-old man sought advice on Reddit after his fiancée, 26, decided to quit her job after their engagement. While he earns significantly more as a researcher, she works in marketing and often feels overworked and underpaid. Their financial discussion began when she moved in and discovered he makes 15 times her salary. Despite this, she insisted on contributing proportionately to expenses.
Following their engagement, she requested a $15,000 ring, often mentioning its cost, which made him uncomfortable. Later, she announced plans to resign, citing wedding preparations and burnout. He opposed her decision, arguing it was too early to abandon her career, especially since they didn’t plan on having children soon.
After discussing her feelings of insignificance at work and the stress of wedding planning, she promised to seek a job with better hours post-wedding or pursue a master’s degree. Despite commenters labeling her a gold-digger, OP defended her, believing she wasn’t aiming to be a trophy wife. Reddit users urged him to get a prenup, suspecting she might never return to work. OP decided to trust his judgment while taking precautions to protect himself.